I do not pretend to understand depression. I can tell you, though, that I volunteered as a Suicide Prevention and Crisis Volunteer for 5 years (the Friday 10pm to 10am shift!). Please - come right out and tactfully/privately ask someone you suspect is depressed and suicidal. Do not judge nor pressure. Just ask and listen and validate their feelings. Often when signs are outward is a subtle way of asking for help. If someone can find the courage to answer the question it sometimes opens the door to getting help.
Jill DiMauro
Kensington, MD